I have read, seen and heard that 2 year olds will have tantrums due to boundary testing and the want to feel in control. I know that consistency and providing short easy choices can really reduce the tantrums but I am still working out how to stop the indecisiveness that comes from the need to be in control. PJ is mostly a sweet boy that says please when he asks for things and everyday he uses his words more than his whining and grunting. So when PJ's mind changes in a split second and he goes from happy to a disposition one would take if they found out the world stop spinning, back to happy with little to no involvement, I feel like my emotions just took a 90mph ride up, down and sideways!
We have a lot of moments like the example below. I know it will be funny a few days, weeks, maybe years from now, but I may need some emotion regulating meds in the meantime.
Scene: This morning PJ woke up after his stoplight clock was already green so he was super happy. I came into the room, high fiving PJ, ready to start the morning routine with the positive momentum.
PJ: "Momma, Green! Green! Go!"
I praise him for sleeping until his light is green, and high fives all around, big hugs.
I start getting his clothes out and ask "Green or Blue shirt."
PJ: "BLUE!(said excitedly), Blue Blue Blue(said in sing song voice with his head bobbing back and forth".
I asked if he wants pants, socks and shoes, and he says "YEAH!!!"
So I bring the clothes over, start undressing PJ, while talking to him about how its so comfy to wear socks with shoes and basically just distracting him from what I am actually doing which is his least favorite part of the day - separating him from his Firetruck Pajamas!
I get the pajamas off without notice and start singing "Blue, Blue, Blue" just like he had 30 seconds prior. Head goes in the shirt hole, and then...
PJ screams "NOOOO! No blue, no blue." tears begin, pulling at his shirt to get it off begins, he gets in a tizzy so quickly.
I am stunned. in less than 30 seconds we went from super happy, to total demise. I put PJ on the floor and I say "Sorry you don't like the blue shirt you picked out. When you are done yelling and want to get dressed I will be back," and then I left the room. The screaming and crying continued, but he did calm down after about 2 minutes.
PJ yells "Happy. Happy."
So I returned and asked if he was ready to get dressed.
PJ: "YES!" jumps up with excitement and eagerness almost as if he hadn't been crying at all. He even said asked for help with his shirt by saying "Shirt" and held up the sleeves of the shirt that were not on yet. We got dressed as if there was no screaming at all and he talked the whole time "Leah house. Eat. Leah house Eat" (which means he is ready and happy to go to school to see Miss Leah and have some breakfast)
Scene: Riding in the car on our way to school.
Out of no where PJ says "No Leah, no Leah. No Eat" not to worry by the time we pulled into school without much said from me, PJ was back to being ready for school, Miss Leah and breakfast.
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